Orcon SPAMS its customers this afternoon by using generic email group

Generic email groups used to be the best thing since sliced bread.....unless you accidentally manage to get it stuck in a continuous loop emailing your customers!
I came back from a meeting to an inbox FULL of emails from what looked like Orcon's Service Desk. 



I bet the data_all@orcon.net.nz email address has since been deleted and the poor person who managed to do this,  to my guess hundreds or possibly thousands of customers is feeling pretty stink about now.


I think I'd run too.  Maybe pretend it wasn't me?  I do love the reaction some people have had in return emails.. here are a few I saw.

From a simple :

"WTF is going on here, sort it please. You have a mail loop".  

Then there was  email shouting :

"FIX YOUR SERVICE DESK NOTIFICATIONS!  20 emails so far (including out of office replies) before any work has even been done."

 

The best one however, was the following that and simply said "Guys you are sending these to everyone"

 

Now if you thought about this really, really clearly before hitting "send"...would you first check who you are replying to? Would you hit "Reply All" to this sort of email and expose your email address and contact details to oh, a few thousand people further clogging up what limited bandwidth NZ has left!!  I wonder how those people are now feeling?  Clever?

The thing that is even more amusing is clearly some of the email addresses on Orcons Group were peoples helpdesk/ service desk systems generic email addresses.  The response emails have now gone and logged yet another ticket in those customers systems automatically, which has then fired off another email to tell them there is a new request.  Awesome!   Ours is one of those :-(

Now we have poor helpdesk administrators all over town trying to clean up the resulting mess in their helpdesk systems too!

Come on guys, fess up- we've all made technology mistakes. 

If nothing else this incident reminded me of the time I set a rather large government bodies entire production general ledger to -3cents.  I still remember the feeling of panic- slightly between thinking I was going to be sick on the spot to passing out.  Needless to say, I did fix the problem after many hours of work into the night and I will never in my life forget the impact it had either!

So when this sort of thing happens- look on the bright side of life- I just deleted 50 emails....without opening them.  Man, that felt good!

So what's you major technology blunder- come on guys share, I know we've all done at least one....

 
 

Wayne helps car crash victim- Air New Zealand & Avis show heart

He told me he was still picking shattered glass out of his suit pants this morning.  No fresh shirt, undies or socks this morning in Dunedin, only the evidence of a horrific ordeal the night before.

"Don't miss your flight back" I said to Wayne, my husband who was in Dunedin on business for the day when I caught up earlier in the day on the phone after he had flown down to Dunedin on an 8.45am flight.

Knowing he was on the 6pm flight home, I was surprised when my mobile rung at 7.00pm.  I knew he should still be on the plane...if his flight was not delayed or he had missed it.

Its now 2.00pm the next day and he is finally back at work.

Wayne was travelling back to the Dunedin airport sometime after 5.00pm in his Avis Rental car to catch his 6.00pm flight.  It was dark and raining. 500 meters in front of him, he saw a horrific head-on car crash unfold. He said all he saw was headlights going in all directions and knew it was bad.

After the cars stopping rolling, Wayne rushed to the car through the mud, on its side while another car rushed to the other vehicle which was still on its wheels. The sole occupant of the car, a lady in her mid-50's was screaming and hysterical.  All Wayne could hear hissing from the engine and screaming.  He immediately called 111 and told another by-stander to call them back and explain the situation as his phone was almost flat from working remotely for the day.  He then worked out that the lady legs were trapped in the car as the head-on had folded the drivers front wheel under the dash. 


In his business suit, Wayne climbed up the underside of the car and in through the back door.  He could see the lady dangling downwards from her seatbelt but also stuck by her trapped legs under the dash.  He could see  she was dangling against gravity and he needed to prop her up so she was not in any further pain.  Wayne pushed his leg through to the centre console of the ladies Nissan sedan from where he was in the back-seat and propped her up.    He said he was freezing the whole time.  He talked to the lady- named Marjorie for an hour, kept her calm and propped up the whole time.  Anyone who knows Wayne can imagine how hard it would have been to talk for a whole hour!  He is usually a man of few words and said this was the hardest part as she kept going hysterical from the feeling of being trapped.

He did this for over an hour until rescue services arrived.  Both Fire and Ambulance came and when they saw Wayne was holding Marjorie up and she was dangling from the seatbelt, they told him to stay in the car with her while they cut her out.  Wayne held her hand and stayed the whole time while the jaws of life were used to cut Marjorie out of the car. Although not the actual picture above and below below, Wayne said it was similar, except the car was in a ditch, it was pitch black, raining and muddy!

After all accident victims being put into the Ambulance and taken safely to hospital, and Wayne gave his account to Police, emergency services told Wayne that Marjorie will probably not even remember that he helped her as often serious crash victims lose all recollection of the event and what happened.  At least this blog will show what a hero he is to everyone else (even if he would be too modest to write it!)

After the accident, Wayne found he was then in a predicament of his own.  He had missed his flight, still had a rental car which was past return time and still needed to get home.  All he had with him was a laptop, flat mobile phone with no charger, laptop bag and suit jacket...

Wayne then went to the Airport just after 8.00pm to find out the Jetstar counter was completely closed with no one around and there were no more flights that evening from them.  He then wandered over to the Air New Zealand counter and explained his situation and that he missed his flight because he was helping at the scene of a serious car accident.  Air New Zealand then said the last flight for the evening has already gone and there were no more flights.  They then said they would get him on the next flight they could....for NO EXTRA CHARGE because of what he did.  It think this is amazing! The Air New Zealand Dunedin crew had enough heart to help someone who had just helped others.  They went out of their way to help him and he didn't have to pay a penny more!  Air New Zealand you really do have heart. 

Not only this, when Wayne went over to the Avis Counter and explained that he couldn't get home because he helped at the scene of an accident but still had the rental car, they also extended the rental hire to the next day for FREE.  Avis- you also show heart and that you care. You also rock!

This meant all Wayne had to do was find accommodation, fresh clothes and dinner for the night.  Unfortunately at 8.30pm in Mosgiel  on a Wednesday night there is no where to buy clothes- not even a t-shirt!  So Wayne had to use the shirt and suit which was now rather worse for wear from the car-accident!  Unfortunately the accommodation or dinner was not complimentary, but I am sure travel insurance will come to the party here.

Wayne, you are a hero in my eyes and a very selfless person to stop and help someone who needed your help.  You put a stranger first and your own life in danger to help them.
Air New Zealand and Avis- you show heart, just like Wayne did- you are also hero's for returning him safely back to Auckland at no-charge, you deserve this shout out, for sure as does he. 

Americas Cup 8-2 - Leadership & Taking Risks?

Swallowing hard on my porridge this morning, I watched Dean Barker in the pre-race start take a huge risk- using an aggressive tactic, which unfortunately his competitors noted and fought back to win the start, and eventually the race this morning.  We all thought Team NZ was going to take it out....but our breath continues to be held until the next race....tomorrow.

As I travelled into work, I pondered the Team NZ tactic and aggressive nature of the start and quietly contemplated the area of aggressive leadership tactics and risk management in business.

I have always solidly believed that business is all about risk and tactic.  If you don't take the risks, you will never experience the brilliant rewards, or the epic fails that see you learn from your mistakes.

I once listened to an inspiring business leader some 10 years ago and I will never forget his comments.  He said- there are 3 types of people out there you need to be aware of:-

People who make it happen

People who watch it happen

and  the People who wondered what happened

So I tried to work out which category Team NZ were in this morning and I was stumped.  OK so we didn't make it happen in terms of a win, but we did make Oracle play a card we wanted to see at the start line so technically we did.  Just like business, how can we put pressure on our competitors to show us one or more of their cards in a process, or for that matter get more information out of our potential customers or prospects?  Sometimes we have to give a little in the process to get an end gain.  As leaders we have to remember this- sometimes its all about the strategy.  I do think we made it happen today...its not all about the winning.

I then tried to look at the second category of people, those who watch it happen.  Yes, Team NZ certainly had to watch it happen, but we were not sitting back, we were fighting and we were watching the result of our risky pre-race start aggressive tactic unfold before us.  We had no choice but to watch it happen.  Business is simply no different, we must take the time to reflect as leaders on what is happening around us.  We must watch things play out in order to understand our next move.  The curve balls I have been thrown over the years have been astounding, some unbelievable.  I have been double crossed, ripped off and trumped, however these experiences have taught me what I know today and I am now able to more clearly see these happening...with my eyes wide open.  If I now make a decision and take a risk and it may not have been the best risk, I take full ownership for my actions, like Dean, I contemplate what happened and watch the scenario unfold, all of the time looking ahead at my next move.  Leaders need to absorb the pain sometimes and not inflict it.  Dean- watching today must have been hard and I am sure you absorbed the pain but I applaud you for taking that aggressive risk.  Sometimes its about the journey not the destination.

So then I thought about the third category of people- people who wondered what happened.  Yes, Team New Zealand probably did wonder what happened, but actually I think they already knew.  We all know, the bigger the risk, the bigger the reward....or failure.  If we don't take risks, we will never know what it feels like to experience massive reward.  I recently put one of my team who does not like public speaking in front of an audience of hundreds of people.  The risk was large as his fear of speaking of over 20 years ever so present.  He started in a shaky way, but ended brilliantly.  He felt so good at the end, the risks were well worth the reward.  Sure I had pushed, but to see his self-satisfaction was everything.  No, Team New Zealand  did not just wonder what happened to them.  They knew.  They took a risk and it simply did not pay off this time.  But the risk was calculated as losing 1 race does not mean we cannot win the next....and now Oracle have had to play out another card so we can view it.

I then reflected myself in a final comment that has stayed with me about people from this Leadership Masterclass.  The comment was:

40% of people have the way and the will,
20% have the way,
20% have the will
and 20% have neither. 




I so believe this is true in business also- as a leader I have learnt to recognise over the years that taking a tactic like Oracle did by Spithill switching  veteran tactician and San Francisco Bay Area native John Kostecki with young Benny Ainslee, the newly knighted Brit and four time Olympic gold medal winner was a bold move and one that is clearly paying off for them.  Again a huge risk to take, but fascinating to see the strategies unfolding and the results of these moves.

I truly believe that a team needs to be dynamic and a mix of different people, but that 20% that don't have the will or the way, you must deal with these issues as fast as you can as this will bring the whole team down. 

I challenge all leaders out there reflect on the Americas Cup, take a good look at the leaders and their moves and have a close look at your own leadership.  Are you taking the risks that you need?

Sit back and enjoy the race or to, and come on Team New Zealand- lets bring home the cup!

 

Microsoft TechEd - 3 Day Wrist Bands - shame on you!

Who wants to wear a bright blue wrist-band for 3 days advertising ACE training and Microsoft TechEd- in the shower, to the gym, to work and of course, to TechEd?  The lovely people who provided them did however tell the team that "Its waterproof though, so there's no issue in the shower!"

This makes for a romantic night for some, just imagine....candle-light, romantic dinner, you reach over to tenderly stroke your partners face....or.....foot...or........with the edge of your TechEd wrist band.   

It was then pointed out to me that it is a conference for geeks and the possibility of most attendees having partners is probably fairly low so this may not really be an issue.

On the other hand however, I also have visions of that dangly tail making things awfully awkward with toilet paper in the bathroom....I shudder to think, nor have updates from the team of what has actually eventuated.  On this comment, one of the team did rightly point out that it is waterproof so really, its not  really an issue.

The waterproof aspect has also added Geek ingenuity around the office, this time in the form of using the dangly tail as a coffee stirrer, however I do caution receiving coffee from these wrist band wearing people, particularly if they had any issues with my point above.

Seriously, I do like Microsoft and we even use Ace Training occasionally, but the line has to be drawn somewhere Microsoft and this time, its been crossed. Our love of all things Geek also has a line and this time its been crossed.  If you've ever wondered what its like to be under house arrest and wear and ankle bracelet- its very similar to the TechEd bracelet, but apparently minus the tracking device.....or is it??

Can't wait until next year, rumour has it RFID style Microchips are going to be implanted in your wrist and you simply have to walk through the scanners WITHOUT the bracelet, however the Geeks in our office reckon GPS trackers might be more what Microsoft are after, given the fact everyone will know where you are going or have come from by sighting your bracelet!!

Enjoy your new fashion accessory TechEd goers, and please post pictures back with comments of other awkward situations your 3-day bracelets have got you into!

Front page of NZ Herald- officially off my bucket list!

Its official.  My quest in life is fulfilled, well sort of.  My actions have made it onto the front page of the NZ Herald this week.  Well, at least the front page of their website.  Yesterday one of my staff sent me the link which simply said "we're famous".

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/sideswipe/news/article.cfm?c_id=702&objectid=10889612

This Private Property sign has already blown off down Nelson street 3 times and has been hit once and it still lives on.  I still think my sense of humour and the ties to our IT side has come through well on this sign- I have not yet decided what the abnormal experiments should be- please comment on this blog if you have ideas- they are all welcome! 

The sign came about because we'd been having loads of issues with cars driving through our car park and out the other side to get back onto the motorway.  The final straw came when the lady who works in the fruit shop around the corner tried to short cut through the car park and HIT the building and ripped the door half off, smashed the concrete and wedged her car door so hard against the corner of the building so hard that she could not get out of her car.  It took 2 of our staff to manoeuvre the car so she could get out.  6 months of insurance claims and a still damaged door, we are the ones who are worse off for the experience!

The No Trespassing sign came about when we were asked by the signage company what we wanted it to say.  I thought it was an odd thing to ask as I thought No Trespassing was simply that!  Being a creative marketer, I took the opportunity to inject humour into something that is also serious and the subtlety to see if anyone would actually read and take notice of it.  Clearly they do.  It made Sideswipe on the front page of the herald this week!  I just wish I'd put our logo on it too!

I've always seen signage as a clear way of marketing- those who know us will know that we are famous for our signage on our building- simply because I decided to put in on an angle, rather than straight to draw peoples attention to it.  It was also noted on the 'observations' website too.

http://observations.co.nz/uncategorized/business-mechanix-need-to-fix-their-sign

Putting that sign on the angle was one of the best things I have done with signage.  People know where we are and we often say- the one with the crooked sign and yes, its meant to be like that!  Its memorable to people amongst the other signage around and that is what counts.

So getting on the front page of the herald is another item ticked off my bucket list. 

In case you are wondering- some other things on my bucket list are: Attending a live sitting of Parliament during question time, Petitioning to have a piece of Legislation changed in Parliament and having it passed into law(Overdue payments and interest charges is what I am looking at ), obtaining a spot on on the board of directors for an NZSX listed company, visiting Hong Kong and new York( have never been), doing a Biking Trip through Vietnam, buying a beach house on the beachfront at Pukehina Beach and living a self sustaining retirement including growing, catching and foraging for my own food sources including doing some type of fitness activity most days.

So what's stopping you- get your bucket list sorted, your creative signage happening and if you love what I'm blogging, share it and send the link on to others to read :-)

Working with family - worth it or not?

Some days I want to scream and others I can't stop smiling. 

Working with family has its challenges, I know as I've worked with my husband now in 2 jobs in two different companies over a 10 year period.  In addition to this, I have worked for my father, brother and uncle when I was younger on many occasions on our Kiwi-Fruit farm- May School holidays was always picking season.  I also work with my father-in-law as he is our accountant and my Step-Father as our Commercial Property Inspector.

When people ask me what its like working with my husband, I always respond "Its a privilege".  I truly believe being able to work alongside every member of family is special.  You are able to work with one of the people you trust most in the entire world.  People often ask me- "how do you get on spending so much time together".  Its easy.  I don't!  People see us on the external as a married couple, and not many people understand that like all businesses, there are managers and colleagues, this is why it works.  We have our own people to see and things to do and are in and out of the office like yo-yos. 

Both Wayne and I have clearly defined roles and job descriptions.  We understand the boundaries of our day to day operational roles and the roles we have as directors and shareholders.  Because of the clear definition of roles, we are able to work on our pieces of the business .  So do we talk about the business at home?  The answer is yes.  I ask other couples- do you share things that have happened at work at home and discuss your colleagues or meetings you have had? I am sure the answer is yes.  We are no different. 

Like most normal colleagues, we have our board-room battles and battles at home.  The main difference is we have a major, major advantage for our customers and staff.  That advantage is that our communications are so good that we are able to stand in for each other at a moments notice, often interchangeable.  We are also able to more openly 'tell each other what we think' as most people tend to be more honest with their partners than work colleagues.  This can also be a disadvantage to our staff sometimes as they see us first as a married couple rather than colleagues.  They can mistake the discussions for a 'marital spat' so we have to be aware of this more often than most.

I don't think everyone could work together as we do.  It takes a great deal of patience and willingness to navigate through  very rough waters in business, but in turn, the ability to really celebrate the good times- not too dissimilar to a relationship really.

Working with siblings and close relatives I don't find much different- it can get awkward at times.  I have personally witnessed members of my family attack each others with spades, not normal behaviour in the workplace, but it happens.  The number of family businesses in NZ is actually quite amazing- there are more around than people realise.

So its it worth it or not?  Here are my key points about working with family:-

1/ Before you start working together, have written and agreed job descriptions.  Worth the effort- absolutely!  This clarifies who does what before you start and stops the dreaded 'stepping on toes'.  Make sure you all totally understand the boundaries.

2/ Business is business.  Treat the boardroom as the boardroom.  Personal stuff stays outside the office- don't use it as ammunition in a meeting- its bad form.  Fight battles as you normally do with other non related colleagues- otherwise your working relationship will be limited.  This has happened to me and I have broached it and aired the reasons why this is 'unprofessional' at work.  You are professionals.  Stay that way.  Worth sticking to- definitely.

3/ Don't be afraid to do the hard stuff and treat a spade as a spade.  Have I had performance related discussions at work with family.  Yes.  Has it been awkward- yes.  Its it worth it- this is the toughest thing you will have to do.  The jury is still out on this one unless you can get your family member to do point 2 and treat business as business.  You must iterate this clearly.

4/ Have a personal life that is actually personal.  Yes, I am my husbands facebook friend and I tag him in photos.  But, when it comes to LinkedIn, this is our place of work.  If I have a better profile than him with more endorsements and connections, game on! (Please endorse me for something if you read this!!).  Remember- Business is business (see point 2!).  In seriousness, our personal life is pretty personal.  Most people have no idea that we love to Kayak Fish together and we often go Mountain Biking or Road Biking together.  Its important to have a life outside of work that is totally different to your place and type of work.  This is what keeps you sane.  Worth it? Yes

5/ Weekends are sacred.  This has been our number 1 rule since we have been working together.  Work as many hours as you want during the week but DO NOT work in the weekend.  I can count on 1 hand in the past 8 years the number of times we have had to work in the weekend.  We have done this on purpose and it is what keeps us normal.  You have to have time away from work- working 7 days a week would even drive non- related people to go crazy after a period of time.

6/ Business trips are business but there is no reason that when the business is finished that you can't have some time out.  This is one of the advantages of working together- you can share some great experiences away- even if it is for work.  We have both travelled extensively for work over the years and have always said if the other is away for longer than 2 weeks then the other person needs to travel to be with them.  I am so lucky to have been able to share experiences, again a privilege.  It can also be problematic.  I was once on a business trip away in the USA and sitting is a conference session and got a text from the team back in NZ.  It simply stated 'I think one of the tradespeople is smoking dope in the ceiling space and its going through the air-conditioning in the office'.  I looked at my husband and nudged him in the conference and simply passed my phone over so he could read the text.  He just shrugged his shoulders.  What does one do in this situation?  I simply said back to him- awesome, we are here and our staff are now in-voluntarily stoned and we have to fire our air-conditioning company.  I love my job!

7/ Plan your holidays wisely.  The downside of working together and running a company together is holidays- who will be there to run things if you are not.  Make sure you have good staff, and if you need them CCTV cameras.  We can't all have eyes in the back of our head. 

8/ Some people will just never get it and see you as a 'family run business' and will never get past it.  I recently lost a deal because of this.  It was substantial.  I was more disappointed that the company directors could not see past this.  And furthermore to see me for the skills I have and as being talented in my own right, as well as having a very successful company that has worked with some of NZ's largest organisations.  Their loss really, a shame that some people will never move on from this mentality.  Worth it- I still wouldn't change working with family over a loss like this, but I think we do have to learn to accept this as an issue and know we won't win all the time.

9/ Understand you still have legal obligations and contracts with family.  This is one of the hardest issues you may face.  As mentioned in point 2- business is business.  There are some hard things you will have to do- this will range from liability issues to having to sue family members.  I have seen this issue destroy some families.  Again, you must be aware of this when you enter any form of business relationship with family.  When I walk out of the office, family is family, if in the office, its work and I expect to be treated the same way.

10/ Some people will always view you as the wife!  Not unlike point 8, some people can't get past the fact that you are talented individuals in your own right.  I think my Mum thinks I am the receptionist for Business Mechanix. I recently decided that I would invite her to an event I was speaking at which was held at Microsoft.  I was speaking and Wayne was sitting down the back.  I think she was very shocked at how well I knew my stuff.  She even commented on 'wow you really do know what you are talking about'.  If you get the opportunity, you must take it to show other family members or even friends that you have talent in your own right and you are not just an extension of your partner or family.  Take the opportunity to SHOW them.  It will be worth it!

In summary, I would not change a thing in terms of working with family.  I have yelled, cried, celebrated, danced, flown, driven, collaborated, dined with and partied with my family as part of my working day.  There are large highs and massive lows. If you can actually work with your family, celebrate this and cherish every moment.  If you can't, at least you have tried and learnt more about yourself and them through the process- no matter how poor the experience- you have still gained from it.  I believe its so great to be on lifes journey with those you trust and respect the most.  Its definitely worth it.

  

When you should walk out of a meeting- the Aaron Gilmore Syndrome

One of our team had an interesting day a few weeks back.  A meeting with a prospective client ended halfway through with one of the attendees standing up and announcing "you are lucky I've given you 30 minutes".  This was despite our team member outlining the purpose and high-level agenda of the meeting.  To make matters worse, they deliberately left the business card of our team member on the table, signalling their real thoughts. 

The person who did the walking out was in middle management. Apparently they were "too busy" to have the meeting, or this is what they stated upon exiting.  Ironically, if they had stayed for the rest of the meeting, they may have discovered a way we could have helped the person be less busy through the services that we offered.   However,  we were not even able to discuss this as the meeting was cut short.  In fact, the person who left early actually also arrived late to start with.... and missed the important the intro and overview of what was articulated.  We also asked 'what are the issues you are currently facing and what are you trying to achieve?' The person could not articulate what they were trying to achieve or issues they were facing.  This in itself demonstrates an issue when faced with external vendors in front of colleagues.  Understandably some issues may be confidential,  however, the 'unwritten rule book on meeting etiquette' should still apply as you never know when you may run into each other again in the future, and instances like this are long standing.  I just feel for the persons colleague who was left sitting in the room with an awkward feeling in the air.

Apparently the demeanour of this person was very much along the lines of 'don't you know who I work for, I have an important role in an important company.'  This came through loud and clear by body language, tone of voice and the action of coming in late and making a point on how they exited the room.  The odd thing was that instead of giving a business card, they wrote their email address on a piece of paper and handed it over.  Strange in itself!

This got me thinking.  I do think that there is an appropriate way and time to walk out of a meeting and cut it short.  There are also ways to conduct yourself in a formal meeting situation.  In fact I walked out of a meeting myself this morning, but I did not do it in the 'Aaron Gilmore' fashion of 'I'm too important'.  I walked out of a meeting early this morning as if I stayed, I would have undermined one of my managers roles and this was not productive to be doing this.

It also made me smile.  I'll never forget another instance of a meeting exit that will stay in my 'mental history books' forever.  Working for a client some years back as a manager in a department, we had to work very closely with another business unit.  There was a manager from the unit I was in and another manager in another area who did not often see eye to eye.  They were in a meeting room holding a meeting with several other people.  The meeting was getting heated and loud voices could be heard outside the room in the open plan area where I was also sitting.  Within minutes, one of the said managers burst out of the room and slammed the door so hard the entire floor heard the bang.  It vibrated things on peoples desks, it was done with such vigour. 

As we all continued to work, the series of events that unfolded was unbelievable.  We did not see the others exit from the room for some time, it must have been at least an hour.  Next minute, the maintenance people were turning up with their tools.  When I went past to go to the toilet and realised what was happening, I could not believe it.  The meeting attendees were still inside!  The slamming of the door by one of the managers had actually bent the door frame and the people inside were stuck.  The meeting attendees were stuck in the room and had to use the meeting room phone to call the maintenance people to get them out.  They did get out of the room and yes, it ended in tears.  The incident was so memorable because the person who slammed the door I'm sure had not realised the ramifications that would follow of their actions.

So in light of this,  I think a check list of meeting etiquette and times when its appropriate to 'walk out of a meeting' should be pulled together. Here are a few of my thoughts on this:-

1/ When given a business card, look at it, smile at the person, acknowledge and immediately put it in your folder or wallet.  Preferably somewhere that its visible to the other person that they can see you actually care about where you put it.

2/ Always give the other person the dignity of hearing them out in the first meeting for at least 1 hour.  You then never have to meet with them again, but at least you should be able to ascertain if they have something you want or vice-versa.

3/ If you genuinely have to exit a meeting, let the other person know in advance that you have to leave early and provide a plausible reason.

4/ If you are under-mining someone else's role in the meeting and its getting outside of your core job description, best to show you support your colleague/ manager by leaving the meeting with a comment 'I have full confidence that person x will be able to handle things, I look forward to their feedback- its been a productive session so far or something similar'.

5/ Never, ever in a meeting use the 'Aaron Gilmore' approach- 'don't you know who I am or who I work for'.  This is the ultimate in disrespect for the other people in the meeting and quite frankly, achieves nothing.  If you are that good, show it by what you say in the meeting and how gracefully and tactfully things are thrown into conversation.

6/ If there are serious personal attacks in a meeting, better to exit and walk out gracefully than to keep it going and show your support for the situation. Simply put, you can exit by saying something like "this meeting is no longer achieving the goals or following the agenda, its best to leave things here until we are able to meet again to review the original items".

7/ If you are in a vendor meeting and you really don't want to buy what the person has, you can still exit gracefully, telling them the truth is a pretty good approach!  How about 'thanks so much for explaining your products and services' to be honest we are OK right now with our current supplier but please keep in touch, perhaps again in another 12 months'?  or "I don't want to take up (not waste) more of your time as we are OK right now, but I do appreciate the efforts you have gone to'.

8/ Do not use electronic devices mid conversation in a meeting and then exit the room when something 'more interesting comes up' on your iPad, phone or similar.  It is very impersonal and looks almost secretive to the other person using electronic devices in meetings, unless you are taking notes and you have the device angled down so the other people can clearly see what you are doing.  Otherwise it can be taken as a sign of dis-respect.

9/ Walk out if the meeting time is up.  Often people will try and 'steal time' with you and go for that 'little be extra'.  If you are genuinely interested then stay but most of the time you need to pay some level of respect to the people in your next meeting by not being late, also, allowing for a meeting wind-up itself can often take 10-15mins so you need to be exiting gracefully again.

10/  Walk out if you need to make a point that it simply not getting through- this must be used with extreme caution and very sparingly.  I used to know someone that used to do this and it was very powerful.  It was like an exclamation mark at the end of a sentence or a bold underline.  Usually used to get across a certain view point and to end on that point alone.  This method is usually used or saved for internal meetings only when you know the people quite well.  In my entire career I recall only doing this once, you must also do it under calm situations not when you are upset or annoyed.  Never, ever be a door slammer (see above)!

In summary,  walking out of a meeting and stating 'you are lucky I gave you 30 minutes' or walking out ending a meeting in anger will leave a lasting impression and not a positive one.  NZ is a small country and most people are only 2 or 3 degrees removed.  If you are having a bad day, walking out of a meeting is probably less than helpful for everyone.  Find another outlet- simply have a yell somewhere no one can hear or perhaps write a blog!!